Last Sunday, we had a get together a.k.a Pot luck for pongal festival. In that, Me and my friend Abi gave a 4 mins dance performance. Abi is a great dancer and she is the one, who took initiative for our performance, when she asked me “are you ready to perform in the pongal pot luck?” , I pondered upon few things , 1) I have a very active toddler at my home, Having him around, Will I be able to make room for my dance learning sessions?. 2) I am not a natural dancer and so far I have danced only easy moves, will I be able to learn tough dance moves or different dance styles? . 3) whether my hubby will be supportive ?. Having thought about all these I was in a dilemma whether to go for it or not but my inner voice said “Jus go ahead and give a try”. So I Listened to my inner voice and said yes.
Fortunately, my hubby was very supportive in various aspects. Especially he took care of my son when I went to learn dance steps. Now, coming back to my dance performance. As usual Abi rocked, she danced well. But, I was not satisfied with my performance , I could have done better. I was nervous (Damn stage fear) and skipped few dance moves, somehow I overcame my stage fear and started to dance for the beat but by that time the song was almost over . 😦 I received constructive feedback as well as diplomatic criticisms.
Here are the comments that I received:
- Few dance moves were out of sync and later on you were doing good.
- Lack of practice I presume, so few of your dance moves were incomplete (which is true in a way , being a non-dancer I should have spent more time for practice)
- You were panting and so your dance performance was not energetic.
- You didn’t complete the dance steps properly.
- Transformation from one dance move to another move was not graceful.
- You didn’t bend well and so the dance steps were not elegant
- Lack of stamina.
- Your co-dancer moves were better than yours.
- Wrong choice of song for the dance.
Hmm, though few comments were hurting and disappointing, I didn’t remain in the despair state for long time. I took these comments in a right spirit and decided to work on that. I have jotted down my observations from the tenure of my dance learning days to performance day:
- practice makes a person perfect but the practice has to be in the right way & approach (coz I learned a dance move incorrectly and was practicing the wrong steps )
- Learn from your mistakes and mold yourself.
- Know your potential (we tried spanish style dance but it was really tough , we spent more time (2 weeks) for that . later on we gave up and chose another song)
- Plan well. ( Till last day I was not sure about my costume)
- Pay attention to the teeny-weeny technique details and do lots of home work. (I should have paid more attention to the details like step changeover, hand position, how far I should stretch /bend etc)
- Assess yourself ( I should have recorded my dance rehearsals and assessed my performance).
- Be resilient -> If something goes wrong, come back to the normal state ASAP. (During my performance I skipped few moves and immediately it was reflected in my face, which I shouldn’t have done, instead I should have continued as if nothing happened 🙂 )
- Enjoy whatever you do and give your 100%.
- Participation is more important than winning (though I didn’t receive good comments , I felt good for my participation , indeed it made me to shed few extra pounds).
Finally, After so many years I took the initiative to dance, from my perception my overall dance performance was good but not great. I am pretty impressed with my attitude shift -> I didn’t feel bad/stressed for the negative comments instead I accepted it in the right sense. Another thing, I got to get rid of my stage fear, be it a familiar or unfamiliar audience I feel nervous, so I have decided to dance again in the forthcoming occasions. In few simple words , “I am gearing up for the next performance” :).