Other day, my hubby took a big decision without consulting me. It had hurt me badly and I was kind of dejected. My mind kept asking few questions like how could he ignore me? Does he respect my thoughts? All these triggered negativity leading to stress. I just paused for a moment and took a deep breath. What would be my hubby doing this time? Deeply indulged in his work / he will be doing what he is supposed to do. Then why am I bombarding myself with such negative thoughts. I have two choices, 1) I can fight , which would yield more stress 2) I can forgive him which give some peace of mind..
I opted the second choice, I forgave. This shifted my thinking , I have decided to tell him the risks involved in his decision. Also , I want to communicate that whatever decision he makes it eventually impacts me and my son. All of sudden, I was resilient and started seeing everything in an optimistic perspective. If our loved ones hurt us, instead of hurting ourselves/them just forgive. Forgiveness is a most powerful thing. It helps to move forward and makes us strong.